Most people who decide to divorce are prepared to do whatever is necessary to get the process over with. If you were married to a narcissist, this likely isn’t how this is going to work. A person who is narcissistic needs to feel as though they are the only person who matters. They can’t stand not having their own way. This can translate into them making the divorce process unbearable for you. 

Anyone who is divorcing a narcissist must prepare for a battle. The divorce likely isn’t going to happen through any collaborative method because there isn’t any chance of negotiating with a person who is narcissistic. Instead, they are going to fight about everything, even things they really don’t care about. 

A narcissist needs to feel powerful. One tactic they use to do this is to try to control other people’s emotions and reactions. Your ex might say or do things just to get you to react. For this reason, it’s usually best if your lawyer is the one who deals with matters related to the end of the marriage. They can speak to your ex’s attorney on your behalf so that you aren’t the one at the front of everything. 

Another common tactic is trying to drag the divorce on as long as possible. This is another control technique. They think that they are making you miserable by doing this, and they think that they are determining how much money you’re spending on the split. While it is true that a divorce trial is likely more costly than mediation, it’s important for you to focus on having the best settlement possible instead of those factors.